On November 5th 2012, my wife gave birth to our first child. During the pregnancy I decided that I would write about the experience. Every week since I have documented all of the events that took place throughout this time, along with my thoughts on them. Now that I can confirm that our baby is happy and healthy, I will share those thoughts with you.
Week 19 – Baby Organs
Before anything else, the current cravings are Haagen-Daz chocolate ice cream in a waffle cone bowl and california pizza margarita style frozen pizza. Don’t you dare think of feeding my wife any other kind of ice cream. It is Haagen-Daz or bust. Naturally this comes at a time when I can only seem to find the small containers of HD, so I am making three trips per week to get her fix. It’s also fun watching her use the waffle cone bowls that are also pretty much mandatory at the moment. It’s funny because she can’t use them without making a big mess. She won’t use a spoon when using this edible bowl, so she just gnaws on it with her mouth. This results in ice cream getting on her face and shirt with regularity. Let’s keep in mind that she could easily put the waffle bowl into a regular bowl and avoid all of this mess. Again get a preview of what having a kid will be like.
With that out of the way, it was time for yet another sonogram this week. This one, however, was a little different. Instead of the basic check that we had been getting from our doctor, we needed to go to a hospital this time for a full look at our little tike. This also marked the first time we went straight to the hospital we’ll be going to when the baby comes, so if nothing else we got a valuable estimate of time and directions for getting to the hospital.
With very little wait we get into a room and Jess gets set up. Everything is as it always is until we actually see the baby (don’t worry, nothing bad). Almost right away I see our baby’s spine. Pretty freaky way to start your day. We proceed to see his kidneys, heart, stomach and all types of organs and things. You read a lot about what parts develop at certain weeks, but seeing all of them is just weird. I looked at my son’s brain for crying out loud! The last thing that needed to be checked out was a front view of his face. However once again Alex is hesitant to move and the reason why is pretty simple. Jessica hates breakfast. She doesn’t usually eat when she first gets up and it’s even less likely that she’ll eat something if she’s rushing to get out of the house (like we usually are). Therefore, since Jessica isn’t putting food in her body, Alex has no energy and is sleeping. At this point we’ve been there for longer than we thought we would and we have places to go, so I run out to get her a cookie and juice to get this lazy bum of a kid going. Sure enough that kicks him into gear, we get the view we need and are on our way.
Over the weekend I went to one of my nephew’s little league games. I remember going to his tee-ball games when he was younger. They were brutal. Everyone bats in every inning. No one can really catch or throw yet. Then he moved up to where the kids were doing the pitching. For every kid who can throw strikes there were 9 more than couldn’t. Kids could field a little, but usually if you threw strikes, you struck everyone out. Now he’s 9 and it’s like he’s playing real baseball. Just making contact doesn’t guarantee a hit anymore. Kids can hit, they can pitch, and they can catch. Not to brag (I’m totally bragging) but both of my nephews crush the ball and can throw strikes, hard. Hard to imagine that just a few years ago they could barely hit a ball off a tee. After the game Jess and I went to a family BBQ at my Aunt’s house. Of course my cousin and her daughter (my goddaughter) were there. I was at the hospital the day she was born, and now she’s ten months old, she walking and saying words. I can’t get over any of this. Where am I going with all of this? Being around my nephews and my goddaughter from the first day of their existences has given me just the smallest glimpse at what is to come. While there is all of the usual (and unusual) things that you expect to come with a baby, the one thing that I find unignorable is that kids grow up faster than you can imagine. Even now with the expected due date of my own child quickly approaching, I mainly just think about about what we’ll do during those early months, when mass feedings and crying in the middle of the night are the norm. I have to remind myself that that is a very small portion of a very big picture.