On November 5th 2012, my wife gave birth to our first child. During the pregnancy I decided that I would write about the experience. Every week since I have documented all of the events that took place throughout this time, along with my thoughts on them. Now that I can confirm that our baby is happy and healthy, I will share those thoughts with you.
Week 27 – “I’m going to be in pain until I have this baby” and Designing a House
After taking her medicine, the shingles are starting to heal. They are still going to hurt for a while though so any changes are cosmetic for now. Meanwhile she has the addition of constant headaches and backaches. Of course there is nothing she is allowed to take for the pain that will actually do anything. It also appears that like everything else that has put her in any discomfort over the last six months, her back pain is expected given her condition and will persist until the baby is born. Apparently the little jerk is sitting on some rather sensitive organs and getting himself in position for his eventual eviction. The moral of the story is that anything your pregnant wife thinks is wrong with her is completely par for the course. Reason 2,034 that I’m glad I’m not a woman.
During this period we are also trying to get a lot of work done on the house. It needs to be cleaned out and prepped for renovation through pretty much the entire building. There have been a couple of good days where we’ve had a large group of people all taking things and making a nice dent. This is very good because Jess is basically useless as far as any housework right now. It’s not that she doesn’t want to, I just won’t let her lift anything. This works out double for her because she is basically 100% in charge of decorating (gulp). This means that there will be at least a hint of purple in every room, and in some cases a lot of purple. So she gets to do all of the decorating and none of the work. Pretty good deal.
Among all of this decorating we had a good talk about moderation. She has been talking about her concept of a dream house for years now. Chandeliers everywhere, a master bathroom and a walk in closet and a big pool and all the things she (and most people) want in a house. Getting this house gives her the opportunity to decorate a home from the ground up however she wants to, and she was set on moving into her dream house with everything already done. Despite us being in a better financial position than we thought we’d be when getting a house, we discussed how we still have limitations and more importantly a lot of years living in this house to gradually make the changes we want over time.
She gets it. She knows we still have a set budget and can’t afford top of the line everything. She just gets very excited once she starts getting ideas in her head. She is also not stupid. After a closer look she sees that adding a 2nd bathroom upstairs is awkward structurally and would prove to be very costly down the line. She also knows that she can alter the bathroom we do have however she wants and convert the half bath down stairs to a full one if we need to. This is just one example of the kind of concessions we might have to make, but either way I’m pretty sure our little family is going to have some version of a kick ass house.